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Death & Bereavement

Death and Bereavement


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Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted

                                Matthew 5.4


The death of a loved one is one of the most stressful and traumatic experience we can have as human beings. Some find their grief so raw it feels as though they have lost part of themselves. Others can feel anger, resentment, fear, whilst others find a quiet peace. Each person’s experience is unique.

St Mary’s Church is here to help you and your family.


A service in church is for anyone, whether or not they have been regular churchgoers. You can contact the Rector yourself or your funeral director will do this for you. The clergy will then visit with you to help you plan the sort of service you would like.


Christians believe that death is not the end - that Jesus offers us the promise of eternity, with God in heaven beyond death.

This hope, along with God’s presence and peace, can bring us some comfort.


Jesus said I am the resurrection. I am life:

Everyone who believes in me will have life, even if they die.

And everyone who lives and believes in me will never really die.

                        John 11 25,26


 The prayer below tries to express some of our feelings and longings as we face the death of someone we have loved.


God of life and love, we come to you in our need.
Be with us as we experience the abyss of death and grief.
Be there in our sorrow and pain; be with us in our fear, that we may find light in darkness, comfort in your Word; in the name of Jesus, who by death has conquered death



Contact: The Church Office
The College
Ottery St Mary
EX11 1DQ

01404 812062



Grieving seldom ends with the funeral. It is natural to feel empty for sometime afterwards. We may be able to offer you some comfort during this time.

Please contact The Church Office, see above,


Jill Rose Pastoral Visiting Coordinator 01404 814709

Information is also available in the Church Shop


You may also find the following websites helpful

 0870 167 1677, 01392 272406
National charity offering free confidential help to bereaved people


Child Death Helpline freephone service fo anyone affected by the death of a child
 0171 4365881
SANDS(Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society)
 0845 123 2304
Compassionate Friends. Supporting bereaved parents by those similarly bereaved
  01392 826064
Child bereavement charity for Exeter, East and Mid Devon
 0845 2030405
Winston’s Wish Childhood Bereavement Charity





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